Question 1

Why is this site only for strictly BDSM professionals? Can I be listed if I offer escorting?

Accepted Answer

This directory does not include people who advertise escorting services. This has nothing to do with how we feel about what is undoubtedly important and essential work, it's because there are already several directories for people who offer escorting, a hybrid of escorting and (usually light) BDSM, sensual-only play, or some other type of adult service. This is a space for people who only practice BDSM.

This is in part because there are clients who are searching for a genuine Domina, classic Mistress, experienced Dominatrix, professional submissive, or otherwise serious BDSM practitioner. When we add other types of providers it dilutes the directory's effectiveness and creates challenges for our potential clients as they have to sift through many listings that are unrelated to their interests.

We understand that some people don't like this policy. Please don't be disrespectful and hostile about it. Just check out another directory that matches your target audience.

Question 2

You say this site is for the more "serious" and "traditional" or "classic" BDSM provider. How do you determine who is "serious" and "traditional"?

Accepted Answer

While we won't all agree about what "serious", "traditional" or "classic" means, I need to have guidelines for this directory to have meaning and purpose. I hope we can all agree on some baseline definitions."Serious" is a measure of the method and quality of your approach. Do you have a website with your own domain? Does it include the kind of information a client would look for and expect to find for someone she or he is considering to book? Do you come across as professional? The more you answer "yes" to these questions, the more serious you appear to be."Traditional" or "classic" is based on activities commonly understood to fall under "BDSM" and "kink". This includes bondage (B), discipline (D), power exchange (D/s) or top and bottom scenarios; sadism and masochism (SM). As well as things like training, punishment, fetish play, role plays, etc. A provider does not need to do all of these, of course, but the expectation is that your work falls under this umbrella. BDSM as it is traditionally practiced does not include escorting or escort activities. This can include cuddling, kissing, fondling, body "services" such as oral and slides, GFE (girlfriend experience), or sex. "Sensual Domination" can also indicate escorting activities, so if this is your main service or you offer little else beyond this, then it's likely your request will be politely declined. Don't get us wrong, those things are hot, and many of us love them, but they are usually not included in the professional sessions of traditional players.If you offer escort services "off the record" that is your business, but if it is "on the menu" in any way then we're sorry it's a no.

Question 3

Why are you policing how people practice BDSM??

Accepted Answer

I'm not. I'm policing this directory. You can practice whatever you want, however you want!

Question 4

Is this an inclusive directory?

Accepted Answer

Absolutely. We welcome anyone regardless of their sex, gender, sexuality, ethnicity, color, religion, nationality, native language, body type, (dis)ability, or legal age.

Question 5

Does my site and ad need to be in English?

Accepted Answer

No. As long as I can use a translator to read it, English is not required.

I can post an ad in any language you'd like.

Question 6

What types of listings do you offer?

Accepted Answer

Our listing types and the details of each can be found on the Get Listed page.

Question 7

How much do listings cost?

Accepted Answer

The types of listings and their cost is on the Get Listed page.

Question 8

How do I pay the fee if I'm not in the US?

Accepted Answer

We have some electronic choices that anyone around the world can use. If for some reason that is not an option for you, you're always free to mail it to us.

Question 9

How do Basic (free) listings work?

Accepted Answer

You must meet a few of the Professional Criteria and place a link to us on your site in an easy to find location.If you remove your link then your listing will be removed.If you have a paid listing and choose not to renew you will be given a Basic listing if you have a link back to BDSMProfessionals.com. If you do not then your listing will be removed entirely.

Question 10

What do I need to do to be approved for a listing?

Accepted Answer

You need to offer traditional BDSM/kink services or goods in some capacity on a professional level. This means you have a certain level of seriousness and level of presentation.

You also must have your own website with a custom domain, such as BDSMProfessionals.com.

For Providers: Your site must be sufficiently developed to include information about you. This includes detail about what you provide*, from where you session, etc., as is standard for people who are a professional FemDom, Dominatrix, Mistress, Domina, Goddess, Disciplinarian, Ma'am, Master, Sir, and submissive. It also needs to be clear how to contact you for a session. (*If the laws in your jurisdiction prohibit this please indicate so when submitting your request.)

For Educators: Your site must be sufficient developed to include information about you as an educator. It should also include what classes or workshops you teach and from where you offer them.

For Dungeons: If you have a studio for rental, you must have a dedicated site or page on a related site (such as your pro Domme site) that clearly shows your facilities and pertinent information that someone would need to contact you to book.

For Shops: If you are a merchant, whether online or at a physical retail location, you must clearly show what BDSM/kink clothing and/or gear you have for sale, and where/how a person can buy it.

Question 11

Why am I required to have my own website and domain?

Accepted Answer

Requiring that providers have their own site and custom domain not only enforces your professionalism, it drastically reduces the possibility of fraudulent listings. It's not to disenfranchise anyone. It's meant to protect both the pros and the clients. If your site seems suspicious you will placed in a waiting period of 6 months before you are eligible for listing.

Question 12

I session in different cities/countries. Can I be listed in more than one place?

Accepted Answer

Absolutely! I encourage it.A guideline for multiple listings is that you reliably session in that location. I define "reliably" as at least 4 times per year. For example, you live and work in San Diego, CA but can drive up and session in Orange County if requested, or you are in London but visit Dubai for a weekend every few months. Something that makes sense when you look at it from the perspective of a client who would like to book a session with you and want to know what they can expect.If you tend to visit a country or city sporadically and unpredictably, then I recommend posting your visit as a tour. Unlike various forums online, our Tour page has excellent SEO and is visited by thousands of people per month. You can also post your travels on our sister forum on FetLife, in both a post in the group and under the stickies for touring providers.If you are some combination of provider, studio rental, BDSM/kink clothing or gear craftsperson, or own a BDSM/kink store (online or retail), those can be listed as well.Please submit a separate entry for each listing you would like. I ask this so that it is absolutely clear what names, locations, websites, and photos go with what listing.

Question 13

How should I submit a request for multiple listings?

Accepted Answer

Please complete the form on GET LISTED for each unique entry you'd like on the site.

For example, let's say you're a pro Domme who sessions out of two cities/town and also rents your dungeon... 
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ENTRY 1:
Professional Name: Domina ABC
Role: Dominant
City: Poundtown, USA
Website: DominaABC.com
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ENTRY 2:
Professional Name: Domina ABC
Role: Dominant
City: Turdsville, USA
Website: DominaABC.com

ENTRY 3:
Professional Name: Dungeonland
Role: Dungeon
City: Poundtown, USA
Website: Dungeonland.com

Question 14

Why was my request declined?

Accepted Answer

There are different reasons why your listing might be declined. Some possibilities are:

You don't have your own website and personal domain. For example, you submit a link to your OnlyFans or your Twitter/X account. Or you have created a free website without personalizing your domain.
You don't seem to be very serious or sincere about offering BDSM. This includes a lack of development on your site. Such as info about you, specifics about what you offer*, your protocol, and how to contract you. Sites that just say "I'm a pro Domme and I offer BDSM sessions" do not reflect a professional and serious provider. (*If laws in your jurisdiction prohibit this please indicate so when submitting your request.)
You offer escorting in any capacity. This is no judgement whatsoever of escorting, it's just there are several other sites for people who offer these kinds of experiences. Those of us who strictly provide BDSM would like a space that we don't share with those who offer escorting. In part because it tends to bring us the wrong clients, or confuses people about who we are and what we offer.
Your site primarily promotes your OnlyFans, LoyalFans, or similar subscription-based site. These do not imply you work with clients directly.
Your site promotes primarily promotes clips and does not discuss working with clients directly. 
There are indications of misrepresentation and fraud on your site. This includes copyright infringement, such plagiarism or trade dress; gross embellishment of your skills, experience, and/or reputation; AI-generated images and writing; and scamming.

Question 15

Can you help me fix the problems with my site so I'll be approved?

Accepted Answer

I just tell you why it's not approved and then it's up to you to figure that out. Once you do you can make another request.

If you want serious one-on-one help with your website, or other related business support, please see the question below.

Question 16

I need some help with my business/domain/website/meeting the directory's standards. Can you help me?

Accepted Answer

Yes! I offer consulting for the BDSM professional or aspiring professional. However, I do not offer this for free.  My rate is a jam-packed 30 minutes for 120 or an hour for 200.  Areas of support include:

developing a business plan
branding
marketing
budgeting
registering a domain
setting up email using your custom domain
websites, start to finish (this does not include my doing your site for you)
tax reporting (this is general advice about how to file/report, not to be replaced by an accountant)

Why me? I'm an established and well-respected Dominatrix often called "one of the best" by my clients, with a track record for success in these areas. I have an educational and professional background in Psychology (with an aptitude in branding and marketing), finance (including tax reporting), and I began doing web sites and development in 1996. I have a lot of knowledge to share with you that will help you shine!

If you're interested, please use the form on the Get Listed page and I'll contact you. Put "consulting" in place of your location. If you don't yet have a domain or website just put "TBD".

Question 17

What happens after I submit my request to be listed?

Accepted Answer

You will be contacted once approved with a request for payment and your profile photo. Though I've been getting to the requests very quickly in most cases, please allow up to 72 hours.

Once approved you will be asked to send payment for your listing and a photo. Payment options will be online or a money order in USD.

Once those are received, I will get to it as soon as I'm able. This is usually somewhere between 15 minutes and 12 hours. But in the event I'm busy attending to my own clients, please allow up to 72 hours for your listing to be posted.

Question 18

How are you deciding in what order people are listed?

Accepted Answer

For a Standard Listing (the only one offered at this time), the order is determined by those who complete the whole process first. Meaning:

Send complete request.
Send listing fee.
Send photo.

This means that if someone else in your city asks to be listed after you they may end up in the directory first if they send the fee and their photo before you do.

Question 19

What kind of photo do I need to send?

Accepted Answer

Your photo should meet the following criteria:

Square, not rectangular. This means it's roughly the same length and height. If it's not, I will crop it, while trying to maintain the overall integrity of your image.
At least 600 pixels on each side.
PNG or JPG format.
Not heavily compressed
Not show you doing something that might be considered legally risky, such as strap-on or forced bi.

It is recommended you watermark your image. Criminals are on the lookout for photos they can steal and use to impersonate a pro Domme so they can scam people. They are less likely to take yours if your name is on it, and even less likely if you include your website.

Question 20

Am I required to show my face?

Accepted Answer

No, but you do need a photo of yourself. A photo of your spanking bench or pair or shoes will not suffice. You also cannot use a stock photo. If you prefer not to show your face just blur or crop it out.

Question 21

I don't know how to watermark my photo. Can you help me?

Accepted Answer

I can add a watermark to your image for an additional 10 USD. If you add this to your initial fee please DO NOT add the note that it's for watermarking in the memo field. Leave that blank and include the message with your emailed photo.

When you send your photo, tell me what you'd like it to say, such as your professional name or your website (I recommend the latter), and if you would like a particular font. If you don't indicate one, I will select it for you.

Question 22

How do I update my profile? Can I log in?

Accepted Answer

In order to log in the site has to be engineered to allow people to create accounts and then give them permission to modify data on the server. This will be a feature in the future, but for now if you need to update anything in your profile, it is still very easy: just send me an email at the address used to communicate with me about your listing. Please put "Profile Update" in the subject line. If I'm at the computer, I'll do it right away. If not, I'll do it as soon as I can, which is usually same day.

If you're a person who likes to frequently update your photo, I'm pretty flexible, but maybe try to keep it to no more than once a month. If you took a great shot of yourself and you want it updated right away, I get it. Go ahead and send it!

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